Communication skills that will change your relationship immediately.

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We are often encouraged by other people how to have better communication skills. We are often encouraged to be confident, listen attentively, etc. All these are good communication skills that you should use in your relationships, but not the way they sound.

Listening to your partner doesn't mean hearing their words. I'm however not ruling that out as well. Let me give you a few hints on how to properly communicate with your partner.

1. Touch

That is the most important part of communication. As partners, touch should be your food. If at one point touching each other becomes a nuisance, consider leaving that relationship. Touching draws you in and merges your energy. Touching should be so common that it sometimes happens subconsciously. Did you know that your body keeps the memory of your partner and they often cannot spook you?

Find your partner's hotspots and touch them how they like them. Your partner often guides you and you just have to pay close attention to them. And that's how you listen to your partner.

2. Kissing

That is another crucial form of communication. Kissing isn't just meant for sex. Learn to randomly kiss one another, and I don't mean a simple peck. Get deep into it, explore your partner, and don't forget to touch them generously. Maul them like a bear would. Bodily fluids should never disgust you, and if they do, kindly and politely leave the relationship. Your partner deserves to feel desired.

Pour your emotions into kissing and that's how you communicate with your partner.

3. Do not notice their flaws

The first rule of every relationship is if you genuinely loved that person before, do not call them out for changes they are experiencing. Many people forget that and often start mentioning weird things. Your partner never changed, and if you still see them as the person you fell in love with, that's how it's always going to be.

Many people complain of reduced sex drive in their relationship and forget that they made their partner be self-aware. Now he/she is a lot more worried about how you see their body. The best way to not see those flaws is to embrace them. If your man got a little fat, enjoy that tummy and learn to ride. You will motivate him in ways you cannot imagine. That's how you respect and build confidence in your relationship.

The Girl that changed my life

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The first and second years of my life from being in this world were spent in the beautiful city of Mombasa. That is ironic because, for someone who has practically moved around the country a lot, I feel caged. So during this period, I lived with my uncle from my mother's side and his wife.

Their oldest sons attended the same school- Sky View Junior Academy- as me and often felt bothered by my tardiness. They pulled me up one too many times and I always raced to go at their pace. I often found my cousin cute and wanted to be like him.

That was also the time Aquafresh hit the market. The toothpaste was famous and was doing road shows around the country to different schools. And our school was one of them. One thing about me is that I love watching TV. I will diligently do my duties just to have my time before the screen. I'm lazy with the TV as well.

Hence, I knew everything about Aquafresh toothpaste. All the color meanings, sizes, prices, flavors, etc. so when our school was chosen, I was so happy. I remember racing so fast to the assembly ground. So the roadshow had the learning and evaluation parts. So we were taught everything that I already knew and that gave me so much power. I felt singled out and untouchable.

I had all the answers to every question. However, being picked to answer questions was something tough but eventually, I was picked. The question was about stating what all colors represented. And of course, I aced it. I was awarded a large toothpaste and that was one of the happiest wins of my life. And I couldn't wait to tell my uncle about it.

That evening, after the games, I rushed back to class in a hurry to get home. So just to confirm, I checked my backpack to lovingly admire my prize. That's when I received a rude awakening. It was missing. A few of my friends frantically ran around to find out who had stolen it and we did. But she ran home faster than we could apprehend her. I don't actually remember her name so we just call her Millicent.

After 4; 00 pm, the teacher wants to go home take a bath and relax, and not deal with the issue after issue. But that did not stop us, I reported the matter to our teacher but she couldn't do much about it. When I got home, I tried retelling the story of my trophy moment but I had no toothpaste to help me prove that I had won. I really needed that win.

The pain I felt that day isn't comparable to any I've felt my entire life. I had a win at hand, I had it and someone took it away from me. To make it worse, it's like no one believed that I had actually won a present in school. It's like even the teachers didn't see how confidently I answered my questions. Headstrong and sure.

I wanted someone to be proud of me so badly. My cousin, however, didn't see my win but later whispered to me that he believed me. And that's what woke me up the next morning to see another day as a new person.