If you are looking for someone to tell you that your ex is miserable, that is not me. I have watched couples break up and wish they hadn’t, but none of them take the step to get back together for many reasons.
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They have found other people who equally bring
joy to their lives
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Their relationship was toxic
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They are better off single.
So before we delve into finding out whether you or your partner
regrets your break up, just know that no one leads their lives as “miserable”. I
mean, come on, we have KFC now, and even better door delivery, who can be miserable
when you can eat chicken in less than 15 minutes? No one no longer has to run
after the chicken and then slaughter and cook it before eating. If you get what
I mean.
And to be honest, coming back is just toxic.
How long
does it take?
There is no timeline that shows how long it takes for an ex
to regret breaking up. It may take years, an hour, or a social media post. Will
they ever regret it? Yes, they will, but there is no guarantee they will reach
out, especially if both of you are egotistic. So hold on tight, because you are
most definitely both hard-headed.
They want
to be friends
Well, no hiding that. This is the most toxic trait with
excess, that is why I suggest blocking them on all social networks, and if
possible blocking them physically too. You know what I mean. Do not encourage
the toxic in and out of bed. Every time there is a new issue.
However, some
relationships thrive on rebounding on one another, seek a therapist or find a partner
that understands that you love the rebound thrill.
They apologize
for the breakup
Don’t be confused here. If they apologize and then start
showing affection, then they regret the breakup. A mere apology does not count.
Some people were just raised right, and they feel bad for breaking your heart
or saying mean things to you.
An ex may reach out soon after the breakup or later on
because they regret their behavior and how they handled the situation, or how
they treated you. Once that’s done, they’ll be in the wind again. But if they
try and redeem themselves, asking to meet and see you because they miss your
laugh, then DING DING DING! You got yourself a simp. I hope they were good to
you because you are definitely getting back together.
They reminisce
about the past
First, they’ll talk about what they’re facing in their
current relationship then start talking about what they miss about you. First,
I hope you know that there is really nothing wrong with that other
relationship. Everything is dandy and perfect, except there is no love as you
had before.
That’s basically it, the love is different, just that. They
are probably lazy and don’t want to learn a new way of loving someone, don’t be
fooled. Advise them to be more accepting and adapt to their new relationship,
you don’t want a lazy partner. And if this is you, stop being afraid of putting
in the work in the new relationship.
They are also probably just scared of being alone. This is a
known fact. Your partner is single for the first time in a while and for a
brief moment, they panic. And they text you. That’s why you will both end up in
bed together, but not together, and repeat the circle until they can find
another partner. Facts!
They are
happy about your new relationship
Huh, isn’t that obvious? They are happy but watch out for
those sweet messages. They will try to hide it but will let a sly comment pass
by, showing that they are completely disinterested. Or they’ll start giving you
relationship advice. That is the time they will start talking about how good
their current partner is as if you both don’t know it’s a defense mechanism.
They stalk
you
And I don’t mean viewing your Facebook story or post. That is
not stalking. Those just appeared in their timeline. I’m talking about Joe. “Hey
there, you don’t know I’m here yet. But you will. Soon. Because I can fix that.
I can fix…you” type of stalking.
This type of stalking, you never see, believe me. A stalker
never reveals themselves. However, they will sell themselves out with a slip of
the tongue. They will act like they don’t know what’s happening in your life,
but one time you will catch them dead in their lives.
I mean, how does someone know where to drop you off if you’ve only lived there a month? Mark you, you broke up six months ago. Or bump into you in front of your office, when they clearly have no business being there. Lol.
The bottom line is, it is not easy to know if someone regrets a breakup.
They may or they may not, and until you can figure that out, avoid jumping to conclusions.
You may end up badmouthing someone who doesn’t give a wink or a crook about your
previous relationship. And stop waiting for them to regret, have some pride,
and move on. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
