Long distance relationship gifts

Long-distance relationships require more effort than short-distance relationships. If you are in a long-distance relationship, be well aware of what is at stake, including the possibility of your partner cheating. That is why you need to keep your partner focused on you, and feel attended to.

I won’t ask you to buy flowers for your partner, clearly, they can do that for themselves. If you are reading this, you are about to do the most drastic and selfish thing ever done to keep your partner. That is because I do not kid around. You need to be mean and in control. You need to give gifts that keep your partner thinking about every other thing except sex.

Yes, stop getting your partner horny and bothered when you can’t reach them quickly, because once you are done talking, they will seek relief from somewhere else. So be mean and keep them thinking less of sex.

 

Write them a letter

First things first, be old. Leave millennials be and go back to the 70’s romance. A latter is endearing and it will make them swoon over you. It will be even more endearing when you both develop correspondence. The anticipation for the letters will keep both of you focused on one another.

Also don’t bring what you talk about in the letters to your daily video calls, keep it separate, like a little secret you don’t want the FBI to find out.

 

Dedicate your free time

Give them a lot of your free time. That will help you grow closer because you share a lot and be in the know. Find online classes you can both take and create a healthy competition. You can also find online play online games, like Words with friends.

These activities put you in the life of your partner, and you will be able to sense changes in their moods if they begin to sway from the commitments. Don’t let the distraction build for long, if it does you’ll lose the relationship. Find time during such times to visit your partner.

 

Small things matter

Send your partner tiny gifts together with the letters. Items that they’ll find funny or endearing. This reminds them that you are thinking of them every now and then wherever you are.

 

A long visit

Long-distance relationships are characterized by short visits. If you want to impress your partner, take a week off work, or annual leave and go be with them. You may take work with you, but only if they are okay with it and will also be at work. If both of you take time off work, then no work.

 

Relationships require work, and you need to put in the work. You cannot sit and expect everything to work out on its own, even angels have to do their work. Nothing is easy.

14 questions for a new relationship

14 questions for a new relationship

A common misconception about these questions; they need to be answered in one sitting. To clearly understand your new date, for the first date don’t ask them any questions. Unpopular opinion but yes, it works. These questions should be answered in a span of 30 days where each day you discover something new about one another.

On the first day, keep talking to a minimum, which means there has to be some form of entertainment to keep the date going. Make light conversations about what is unfolding before you, eat or drink, then go your separate ways.

That will give both of you time to determine whether you’d like another date or not. Give each other two days to feel the stew. You will know if you both want another date. After exactly 48 hours, plan another date, or not.

For every date, ask one question and explore all other possible questions on the topic. If the topic ends quickly, don’t move to another, find another activity to bond on, that way you can learn other things about each other without asking questions.

1.       Are you married?

Expand the topics, for example;

-          Divorced?

-          In a relationship?

-          Are you looking for a commitment?

-          What do you think of marriage?

-          Do you know any married and divorced couples?

-          Do you want children?

-          What is your opinion on divorce?

Broaden the topic as you go.

Questions to ask yourself before getting married.

2.       Any toxic exes I should know about or are they still in the picture?

3.       What does friendship mean to you?

4.       What’s the most important thing to you in life?

5.       How is your relationship with your mother?

6.       How do you vision retirement?

7.       How do you handle grief?

8.       How do you deal with a stressful situation?

9.       Do you believe in God?

10.   Do you think of travelling? Where?

11.   Who is closest to you from your extended family?

12.   What’s your policy on cheating?

13.   If you have a day left, what would you do?

14.   What inspires you?

 

What motivates you to succeed?

 

To be safe, on the 31^st day, meet and talk about the next step which is to date or not.

 

How to handle being jealous of your partner's ex

Jealousy is endearing, but sometimes it is like a leaking pipe soaking your walls. With time, it does serious damage if not managed. It is important to note that sometimes jealousy is logical and to avoid gaslighting your partner.

However, retroactive jealousy does not make sense. Let us all be honest about that. An ex is an ex for a reason, and they are in the past. Focusing on the future is best. The excess can cast a shadow on your relationship, that’s for sure. You never know the full story as you only hear the negatives, the unfairness of the breakup, and how the split negatively affected the children or family.

There are special cases where a breakup is celebrated. That doesn’t mean there are no questions still. Jealousy over an ex can be due to many reasons and unanswered mysteries. Were they sexier, nicer, or kinder? Or do they keep in touch?

There are ways of combating such challenges. They include;

 

Setting a solid foundation

Get into a relationship knowing your true intentions and that there are exes. At this point, you may or may not know the ex. Ensure that you set a strong foundation on trust, communication, growth, fun, commitment, and connection. The stronger these six elements are, the less likely your relationship will be shaken by an ex.

 

Ask about the ex

Knowing a few things about the ex may be good for understanding your partner’s past. However, there is absolutely no need to bring up an ex if they don’t impact your life now or in the future. Sometimes the past has to stay there.

There are relationships that end mutually, and pocking is unhealthy for the ex. Always consider the other party in such situations.

Ask about the ex if they start showing up. It is also important to clearly introduce your ex as an ex, not a friend, as that may be misleading to your partner.

 

Set boundaries

That only happens if the ex keeps communicating with your partner or vice versa. Communicate with your partner and find out why they keep in touch, if it’s for the children, set clear boundaries. Clearly tell your partner your limits, what is acceptable and what isn’t, and what your expectations are. Here are a few communication skills that will help your relationship.

 

Inform the ex

This is not your job but your partner’s. Communicate to them about clarifying to the ex that their road ended, and you both will appreciate respect. They must respect your boundaries and, if possible, not act like a douche.

 

Stay in the present

Some exes are from hell, so try your best to stay in the present and not let stress get to you. Don’t punish your partner because of a toxic ex; actively work on your relationship and be there for your partner. Jealousy may cloud your judgment if you don’t, and you may end up losing something good in the process.

 

In conclusion, remind your partner that you love them daily and avoid jealousy, especially if your partner does not tolerate the said ex.